Posts by Lost Diamond

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Formula for a perfect marriage

by BoozeRunner in

it is important to find a woman that cooks and cleans.

2. it is important to find a woman that makes good money.

3. it is important to find a woman that likes to have sex.

i have a short question.. while you were in the truth would have been impressed by the quotes on the quotes.jehovahswitnesses.com page about 1914 and all the other wrong prophecies or would you have simply ignored or denied the accuracy of the quotes?.

would that have caused doubts or would you have found a way to rationalize the obvious lies?.

thanks a lot!.

Lost Diamond

I would have thought it was just a way of Satan and his demons to pull us out of the "truth". I see how narrow minded I once was!

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DID YOU ENJOY SHERHERDING CALLS?

by minimus in

jw
friends

elders are supposed to be loving, caring shepherds.

when a problem arises, elders are supposed to be there.

visiting in homes was something the organization always stressed.

Lost Diamond

The only time I got a "sherherding"call was when they had to tell my I wasn't getting enough service time in.....oh, and during my divorce when they told me I was "the hard-hearted one" for divorcing my abusive husband.

They always had a way of making me feel real good.....

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DRESS TO IMPRESS?

by bay64me in

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friends

most years, my old congregation would get asked for volunteers to clean and garden our assembly hall.. as you all well may have observed, at such occasions at your hall, all the youngsters would use this oppertunity to show the opposite sex, just what they looked like in their 'civvys' (leisure-wear) !.

i knew one sister that used to make her own clothes and would make this, sort of andy-pandy suit.

she would use some sort of candy-striped bed linen-sort-of-material, usually pastel coloured and make a kind of all-in-one romper-cum-knicker-bocker-pedal-pusher-number?

Lost Diamond

Oh yes!! I remember this one "sister" who would do all her own sewing and she came up with the most awful gawdy meeting wear! She had two daughters and a son. I felt soooo sorry for those girls...they were always sporting their mother's newest inventions and creations....stripes, checkers,gingham,polys, and sometimes some metalic wear and sometimes all in one...ugh!!!!

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An adorable surprise tonight....

by Mimilly in

jw
friends

i was so tired tonight and could barely wait to snuggle up with my diego.

for some reason, probably the neverending headache, or the neverending thinking and analyzing process - i laid there wide awake while my two dogs snored.

how rude!

Lost Diamond

Mimilly,

How sweet! I lived up a forrested part of Gresham, Oregon when I once counted 6 racoons out on my deck one night. My kids were delighted as we watched them. The younger ones were especially cute! I still see quite a few of them killed on the road on my way to work when I drive through farming areas. It's a shame...a lot of folks see them as pesky pests. I still think they're cute!

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Rebound Relationships

by onacruse in

i really don't know where to start with this....it's so personal, and i'm so confused.

when i left bethel, i was a basket case, and married my first wife while i was still in mental/emotional limboland.

i loved her from the bottom of my heart (as best i can imagine what that means), and meant what i promised "till death do us part.

Lost Diamond

Onacruse,

I just posted something similar to your thread under marriages. Please take your time on this relationship. I feel that I too married on the rebound when I was still emotionally fragile. I was certainly not ready for a relationship, because I now find myself with someone that was really not for me and I am debating wheather to end it. It has been a painful mistake.

I know exactly what you mean by being afraid of being "wrong" again. I don't think that I would be ready for marriage for a long time again.....too afraid of making the same wrong choices. I agree with LB...what's the rush? Take it slow and if she's the one, then she will understand your fears and hopefully will be very supportive. Celibrate that you have found somebody to share lifes joys with live life to the fullest with this person. Just take it slow.

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Is it possible to fall out of love....and married?

by Lost Diamond in

i would like to know what your opinions are and i would really appreciate some input.. i have been re-married for two years, but along the way there has been some deep hurts, although no infidelity.

he claims that he loves me, but i do not feel the same way for him as i once did.

i was married to a verbally abusive husband for 11 yrs, and i'm wondering if maybe i just wasn't ready to remarry so soon, and the hurt my current husband has caused has rubbed some old wounds alittle too often.. he has done some emotionally hurtful things to me in which i don't really care to go further on right now, and this has caused me to distant myself from him.

Lost Diamond

To All,

All of you have had given such good input....I can't thank you enough!

Sential,

You hit it right on the head! You are so right about what you said. I think it's just a repeat of the same pattern but in a different form...I'm so worn out by it! I have been to counseling and I thought I had it all right, but obviously all his sweet talk got to me. I think I will go to counseling once again.

Jim Tx,

I know excactly what you mean. I am usually an upbeat person and I don't get upset easily. I consider myself a pretty posititve person and I am usually pretty happy. I get told at work that I never seem angry....although I deal with the public all day long.

That's why I feel it's time I make a change, because this marriage is wearing me out and I'm sure my kids feel the effects. I feel as if my life force is being drained....just like my previous marriage. I don't ever want to go back to where I was before!! I want to feel peace and happiness to the fullest....just like I felt before I married him. I was very happy single and living life to the fullest with my two young kids. We played together and really enjoyed each other.....without the constant tension we now feel at "home". It's not really a home to us.....it's not a place of peace and safety like we once had. I owe it to myself and my children to find a better life for us.

Queenie,

That's kind of drastic....but I can see why you feel like you do. I was much happier single......and dates were abundant. Fortunately I never had a problem finding a date. For some reason I seem to get along with the male gender real well.

I'm not worried about never finding someone special....if I ever do. I'd be happy just having friends to go out and share a drink or some special time together until, if ever, that special person walks into my life.

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Fear Mom and give her glory

by Dogpatch in

jw
friends

when i was around 4 or 5 years old, my mother got a call from a jehovah's witness.

i had a very difficult time making a decision whether to go to the funeral or not.

neither of us were ever baptized, and i believe that i made the right decision.

Lost Diamond

Randy,

O.K.....I'm embarrassed now. I thought this was about you...I didn't read "contributed by". Anyway, I'm sure you're a great guy none the less.

I still feel badly for this man!

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Fear Mom and give her glory

by Dogpatch in

jw
friends

when i was around 4 or 5 years old, my mother got a call from a jehovah's witness.

i had a very difficult time making a decision whether to go to the funeral or not.

neither of us were ever baptized, and i believe that i made the right decision.

Lost Diamond

Randy,

What a sad young life you had! If there was anything I could do for you I would!!! I just want to give you a big hug!

Seeing young children hurt (or anybody for that matter) tears me apart...I'm so sorry for you!!

I'm glad you are a stronger person now....you come across like a very brave and stronger person and that I am happy for. Please think possitive thoughts! There is so much to life, we all need to reach out and find our happiness and experience eveything as if it was our last day.

You seem like a wonderful person and I have always enjoyed your posts. You have made quite a contribution to this board.....

Bernadine

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Is it possible to fall out of love....and married?

by Lost Diamond in

i would like to know what your opinions are and i would really appreciate some input.. i have been re-married for two years, but along the way there has been some deep hurts, although no infidelity.

he claims that he loves me, but i do not feel the same way for him as i once did.

i was married to a verbally abusive husband for 11 yrs, and i'm wondering if maybe i just wasn't ready to remarry so soon, and the hurt my current husband has caused has rubbed some old wounds alittle too often.. he has done some emotionally hurtful things to me in which i don't really care to go further on right now, and this has caused me to distant myself from him.

Lost Diamond

Mr Biggs,

I'm sorry that you are going through a similar situation...it can be very painful at times. I believe we all deserve respect and happiness in whatever we do. It's a tough situation. I wish you the best!

Amac,

Yes, marriage is a committment, I strongly agree. But at the same time that should come from both parties...both should give it their all. God knows I try...it just seems my husband and I play by different sets of rules. I've been the best I can be and with all my heart, but I don't feel it's been given back to me the same way. I still have some self-respect left in me to fight for some happiness.

Scootergirl,

I have to agree with you....some selfishness is good. If we didn't stand up to ourselves we become stepping stones.

Jack2,

We have tried counseling. He comes across that he doesn't feel he has done anything wrong. I'm his 3rd marriage, so I guess bad habits die hard. As long as he feels that way I don't believe things are going to change much.

I'm trying to muster up the courage to leave him, and at the same time I don't want to hurt him. He is a good guy, but not marriage material.

Thank you all for your thoughts..I'm open for all opinions!